by | Jan 25, 2022 | Leadership, Ministry Leader, Pastor, Pastor's Kids, Podcast, Uncategorized

Today we welcome Aaron Hlavin to the podcast. Aaron is the District Superintendent of the Michigan District of the Assemblies of God. He previously served as a Lead Pastor for thirteen years, and an associate pastor for ten years. We invited Aaron to talk with us about a serious subject today: how the craziness of the past two years has impacted pastor’s children.

Here are the show notes:

  • There will come moments in ministry when you want to quit, and you have to hear the voice of God who called you in the first place
  • Ministry is a long journey of saying “yes” to God
  • Four realities of churches in 2021
    • The suffering stage – due to challenges from the past two years
    • Persevering stage – pastors are encouraging themselves to keep at it
    • Character development stage – who are we going to be as a church moving forward?
    • Hope stage – deciding it’s time to move forward organizationally
  • Watch your self-talk – your self-talk often lies
  • The impact of the last two years on pastors’ kids
    • Pastors’ kids have one of two perspectives: The church is either a wonderful safe place or a terribly threatening place
    • Church people were fighting more the last two years than at any time in recent memory
    • They’ve heard more criticism of their parents from parishioners
    • Pastors have been required to have more difficult conversations with their kids in the past two years, because their kids are asking harder questions than ever before
  • What can we do about this impact?
    • Talk about the good things of ministry with your kids
    • Normalize the ministry as much as possible for them. Let them be kids, let them be goofy and have fun
    • Encourage your congregation to pray for your kids
    • Put your kids first
    • Don’t only talk about church – talk about other areas of life
    • Attend your kids’ events
    • Congruence between your private and public life
    • Avoid involving your children in negative conversations about people at church
  • Be spreaders of hope wherever you go
  • If we focus on what’s right in the world, we’ll have the energy to fix what’s wrong