3 SMART WAYS TO RUN THE RACE GOD HAS CALLED YOU TO
I despise long distance running. In high school, I was forced to run track because playing football (my real sports love) was contingent on running track. No track, no football. I was a sprinter by body type, but for some reason our track coach thought having me run...
THE THREE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS I LEARNED IN 2018
Wow—another year is in the books. I know it’s cliché-ish, but every year seems to go faster than its predecessor. I blinked, and 2018 was over. 2018 was an amazing year in so many ways: I have an incredible wife who is beautiful on the inside as well as the outside....
CHRISTMAS & THE SEASONS OF LIFE
Christmas was magical to me as a kid. The fresh-cut pine tree loaded with lights and ornaments; piles of snow outside; Charlie Brown and The Grinch Christmas specials; holiday kielbasa and raspberry cream pies; family gatherings; opening gifts; no school for two...
3 ROADBLOCKS TO FULFILLING RELATIONSHIPS
We live in a world that is more connected technologically than any time in history. But I wonder if our technology prowess has resulted in us being lonelier than any time in history? In the Garden of Eden, shortly after creating Adam from the dust of the earth, God...
6 REASONS TO GIVE THANKS THIS YEAR
Tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day! I’ve heard business and psychology gurus pitch the idea that we can think our way to a better life. Their premise? Our brain is soft-wired, and can be re-wired by thinking positively, and in doing so, we can have a happier life. Since...
3 SUBTLE DANGERS OF WORKAHOLISM
I enjoy watching the ABC show, Shark Tank. It’s entertaining, funny, informative, and at times—touching. The show reminds me about the importance of focus, passion, hard work, and commitment to one’s calling. It’s a weekly testament to the power of diligence,...
4 QUESTIONS EVERY LEADER NEEDS TO ANSWER FOR THEIR TEAM
One of the more important challenges a leader will ever solve is: How can I get more out of my team without crushing them? Unmercifully squeezing as much as possible out of team members until they burn out is not good leadership. Neither is manipulating or coercing...
FIVE THINGS I LEARNED AS A SUICIDAL PASTOR
In 1992, I was the lead pastor of a growing church. We were having a banner year. Highest attendance ever. More people committing their lives to Christ than any year prior in our tenure. Record financial giving. We were in a wonderful stretch of organizational...
3 SIMPLE SECRETS THAT WILL KEEP YOU IN THE RACE
I love what I do for a living. Coming alongside leaders and helping them lead better, lead longer, and enjoy it more is deeply fulfilling. Some days I pinch myself to make sure I’m not dreaming. Getting to do what you love every day is a gift from God. But that...
4 SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE A PEOPLE-PLEASER
I want everyone to like me. But I don’t need everyone to like me. I’ve been wrestling with the above thought for weeks. I want everyone to like me. But I don’t need everyone to like me. Wanting everyone to like me, when issuing from a healthy place, speaks to...
3 TENSIONS WE NEED TO MANAGE TO GROW TRUST & DIMINISH WORRY
No amount of money will ease all of your anxieties if you leave trusting God out of the equation. Jesus said worry chokes the life out of what He’s planted in us. And elsewhere He commanded us: “Do not worry, saying ‘what shall we eat/drink/wear?’ For the pagans run...
6 WAYS TO HEAL YOUR BROKEN HEART
“Lord, I’m hurting this morning.” Ever prayed that prayer before, or some version of it? I’m not talking about physical pain here—rather, about emotional pain. Especially the variety that issues from disappointing relationships. You know, the kind of pain that feels...
3 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL STUCK
Over the weekend, Laura and I helped some dear friends move into their new house. I was freshly reminded of the stress moving into a new home places on people: the boxes, the planning, the long hours painting and cleaning, and the overall disruption it inflicts on...
4 WAYS TO FREE YOURSELF FROM THE PRISON OF PERFECTIONISM
I am a recovering perfectionist. It was circa 1997. I was in a pre-service prayer room, getting ready to speak to a group of about one hundred teenagers. I was pleading with God for twenty agonizing minutes to help me, use me; praying like I was trying to wrench...
4 WAYS TO OVERCOME SCHEDULE ARRHYTHMIA
I have several friends who suffer with Arterial Fibrillation or A-fib. With A-fib, the heart's upper chambers (atria) beat out of coordination with the lower chambers (ventricles). Another word used to describe A-fib is arrythmia. Arrhythmia is a problem with the rate...
THE 4 FUNDAMENTALS OF FORGIVENESS
Do you struggle with the F-word? The last two weeks we’ve been looking at the subject of getting a grip on our anger and learning how to express it in a healthier way. You can’t talk about anger very long without wandering into the minefield of forgiveness. Ugh....
5 WAYS TO BE ANGRY WITHOUT BLOWING IT
We live in an angry world. The age of outrage. In last week’s blog, 5 Things Everyone Needs to Know About Anger, we considered five basics we have to understand: Anger is part of the human experience Anger often involves emotional residue Anger can be the right...
5 THINGS EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT ANGER
We live in an angry world. The age of outrage. Is it just me, or do people in general seem angrier than ever? A husband remarked to his wife one day, “When I get mad at you, you never fight back. How do you control your anger? His wife replied, “I clean the toilet.”...
4 THINGS BEING A PAPA HAS TAUGHT ME ABOUT GOD’S LOVE
I’ve been a papa now for two weeks. What an amazing club I’ve joined. In a blog two weeks ago I tried to describe the magnetic pull that occurred the first time I held our granddaughter in my arms. What an incredible bonding moment. Two weeks later, I find myself...
8 OFTEN OVERLOOKED SIGNS OF DEPRESSION
“John I’m feeling depressed.” In my line of work, I often hear those words. Having experienced major depression two decades ago, when someone tells me they’re feeling depressed, I wonder: are they having a couple of bad days in a row—or are they dealing with...
4 EMOTIONS OF A NEW “PAPA”
It’s 2:00 a.m. in the morning. I’ve just been notified that for the first time, I’m a papa! Our first granddaughter made her grand appearance a few hours ago. I was sleeping soundly, so didn’t hear my son’s text letting us know their precious little bundle had...
4 WAYS TO BEAT BITTERNESS
One of the hardest things to do in life is to forgive a person who has deeply wounded you. When a somebody attacks us, forgiveness is not usually the first thing on our mind. For some of us, our initial impulse may be to retaliate. For others of us, we may tend...
HOW TO KNOW YOU’RE RUNNING ON EMOTIONAL FUMES—AND 4 SHORTCUTS YOU CAN TAKE TO REFUEL
Emotions can be funny things. Some people let their emotions control them. Others refuse to acknowledge they even possess emotions. Some leaders, to their own peril, ignore the important role a full emotional tank plays in longevity. According to a Barna Study of...
3 WAYS TO PROCESS THE PAIN OF RELATIONAL LETDOWNS
Disappointment is the gap between our expectations and our reality. The bigger the gap, the more disappointment we feel. The more disappointment, the more pain we experience. Nowhere does disappointment seem to rear its head more than in relationships. When I take...
5 QUESTIONS TO ASK WHEN CONSIDERING A TRANSITION
“John, I can’t take the pressure anymore . . . I’m thinking about resigning.” You’d be surprised how often those words or some variation of them travel across the cellular airwaves to me each month. Lead pastors who feel desperate, tired, emotionally beat up, out of...
4 SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE OUT OF RHYTHM
The rhythmic pounding of ocean waves might be one of the most relaxing sounds God ever created. A couple of weeks ago, Laura and I spent a week vacationing in sunny, warm Florida. (Michigan weather, please get a clue). We took in Venice Beach on a windy day, and the...
3 LIFE-SAVING RESPONSES TO DEPRESSION
“My life is over!” It was a bone-chilling night in November 1992. Weeks of little-to-no sleep combined with a lack of appetite due to excessive anxiety finally came to a head. My emotions were spinning out of control, I was suicidal, and contemplating the least...
3 Things King David Teaches Us About Leadership & Disappointment
What do you do when ministry doesn’t work out the way you envisioned? When your expectations are swallowed up by disappointment? How do you react when you feel more like a firefighter (or a babysitter) than a leader? Have you ever thought to yourself: “I didn’t sign...
3 REASONS GREAT LEADERS NEVER STOP LEARNING FROM OTHERS
When you’re experiencing momentum in ministry or business, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking you are the secret sauce to that success. It’s easy to get a big head when you’re on a roll. It’s tempting to quit listening to outside voices because you either...
6 REASONS PASTORS RESIST REST
I am fed up. According to an extensive Barna research study of 14,000 U.S. lead pastors, published in January 2017, 37% of lead pastors are at medium to high risk of burnout. 43% are at medium to high relational risk with their spouses. A whopping 66% say they have...