Jan 2, 2020 | Burnout, Calling, Career, Depression, Difficult people, Emotional Health, Leadership, Likeability, Ministry Leader, Pastor, People-pleasing, Relationships, Uncategorized
Nothing good ever comes from a ministry devoted to pleasing people ~ Chuck Swindoll The fear of man is a snare ~ Book of Proverbs When I think about my first fifteen years of pastoral ministry, so much of it was tinged with a subconscious thirst for people to like me....
Nov 7, 2019 | Calling, Career, Ministry Leader, Pastor, Relationships, Self-Awareness
Jaime Hlavin is back today with an insightful post on why getting to know yourself matters so much. I know you’ll enjoy it ~ John According to a quick and unofficial Google search, there are approximately 2,500 different “tools” available to determine...
Oct 31, 2019 | Family, friendship, Leadership, Likeability, Ministry Leader, Pastor, Relationships, Self-Awareness
“We all have blind spots. To deny it is to prove it.” ~ Russ Ramsey Ever been in a conversation with a person who had no idea how their words were negatively impacting you? Ever had a boss who was clueless about how their angry rants were demoralizing you and your...
Oct 3, 2019 | Anxiety, Doubt, Fear, Peace, Relationships, Spirituality, Uncategorized
We live near a busy road, one that my son Chad and I jokingly call “the drag strip” The noise pollution from the “drag strip” is substantial, consistent, and—if I can be totally honest—a bit annoying at times. Enter Plains, Montana. A curious name for a...
Jul 18, 2019 | Anger, Criticism, Emotional Health, Family, friendship, Marriage, Pastor, Relationships, Uncategorized, Words
I like to play golf. Golf isn’t super-exciting. In fact, it’s kinda boring. But hitting a little ball hard with a club can be therapeutic. I’m a below average golfer. Golfers at a below average level use mulligans occasionally. If you’ve never played golf, you...
Jun 27, 2019 | Anger, Anxiety, Assertiveness, Depression, Difficult people, Forgiveness, Relationships
We live in an increasingly angry world. If you don’t believe me, drive during rush hour in any major city in the U.S. Or watch cable news for thirty minutes. You’ll be convinced. Anger is a human emotion common to all of us. It says: “You’ve taken something from me,...