WHEN LIFE & LEADERSHIP DISAPPOINT

WHEN LIFE & LEADERSHIP DISAPPOINT

What do you do when the current season you’re in isn’t working out the way you envisioned? When your personal life, or professional life—or maybe both—seems swallowed up by disappointment? Life doesn’t always work out the way we hoped. And yet we can have hope no...

HOW GRATITUDE HELPS YOU LEAD BETTER

HOW GRATITUDE HELPS YOU LEAD BETTER

Gratitude is a choice. A powerful choice   Especially in difficult seasons of life. Problem is, gratitude and contentment are unnatural responses for most of us humanoids. Even in normal times (are there such times?) being grateful doesn’t come automatically for...

MINISTRY & MARRIAGE

MINISTRY & MARRIAGE

Today we welcome Jaime Hlavin back to the blog. In today’s post, Jaime explores the real challenges facing ministry couples, and offers four practical tips to help busy pastors and their spouses cultivate a growing, life-giving marriage. Enjoy ~ John My husband and I...

THE PERIL OF GROWTH

THE PERIL OF GROWTH

Ah growth . . . an oft-used word in our world. Many times, an oft-misunderstood word. And our misunderstanding can get us into trouble. What happens when we get the “growth thing” right? What happens when we get it wrong? 30 years ago, I suffered through major...

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR THE INTROVERTED LEADER

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR THE INTROVERTED LEADER

Today we welcome Jaime Hlavin back to the blog. Jaime explores the sometimes head-scratching challenges facing introverts who have an extroverted calling . . . and what those introverts can do about it. Enjoy ~ John. I am an introvert. I am very comfortable in my...

LEADING FROM ALIGNMENT EPISODE 161: WHEN JESUS SAID NO

LEADING FROM ALIGNMENT EPISODE 161: WHEN JESUS SAID NO

Don’t attend every argument you’re invited to. Jesus said “yes” many times. But He also said “no” on occasion. In today’s episode, John & Jim help us find the middle between the extremes of people-pleasing and people-dodging. Here is the audio link. The video link...

STRUGGLING WITH THE F-WORD

STRUGGLING WITH THE F-WORD

Do you struggle with the F-word?   You know . . . when people (sometimes the ones you love most) say or do something injurious? When you feel angry about it and are unsure how to process the emotion? You can’t talk about anger for very long without wandering into...

THE COMMANDMENT LEADERS DISOBEY MOST OFTEN

THE COMMANDMENT LEADERS DISOBEY MOST OFTEN

When I ask leaders about taking a weekly day off, I’m often greeted with a blank stare followed by uncomfortable silence. Some report they haven’t taken a day off in years. And even worse, a few of these leaders are proud of it. They wear busyness as a badge of honor....

LEADERSHIP & FRIENDSHIP: ARE THE TWO COMPATIBLE?

LEADERSHIP & FRIENDSHIP: ARE THE TWO COMPATIBLE?

“You can never have any close friends in the church you lead!” Such was the declaration I heard as a young pastor from many seasoned pastors. I was a greenhorn and didn’t have enough confidence to push back on their strong position. Coming out of college, where...

ACQUIRING THE ART OF PIVOTING

ACQUIRING THE ART OF PIVOTING

One of the hardest things to do for most leaders is to separate from work. Pivoting from their professional life to their private life. I know this from personal experience. I had to work hard as a lead pastor to shut off work once I entered our home. According to the...

LEADERSHIP THAT DISAPPOINTS

LEADERSHIP THAT DISAPPOINTS

Jesus—more than once—disappointed people. There, I said it. This profound truth was brought to my attention two years ago while recording a podcast with Josh Spurlock, the founder of My Counselor Online. His words hit like a ton of bricks . . .  “Jesus often...

ARE YOU ONLY DOING WHAT ONLY YOU CAN DO?

ARE YOU ONLY DOING WHAT ONLY YOU CAN DO?

It was a sunny summer morning, circa June 2019. At the gym, earbuds plugged in, listening to a podcast, when suddenly, my day was rocked by the words of the person being interviewed on the pod: “Leaders need to ask themselves . . . am I only doing what only I can do?”...

LEADING FROM ALIGNMENT EPISODE 155: WHEN PARISHIONERS ATTACK – PART 1

LEADING FROM ALIGNMENT EPISODE 155: WHEN PARISHIONERS ATTACK – PART 1

Criticism hurts. No matter how great a leader you are, there will always be a few parishioners who don’t like you and feel it’s their calling to criticize you. Both Jim and I could recite multiple instances during our tenures as lead pastors where the vocal minority...

The POWER OF SAYING NO

The POWER OF SAYING NO

Do you ever struggle saying with “no”? In his 2014 book—The Power of No—James Altucher writes: “How many times have you had to say ‘no’ only to have it cause anguish, arguments, and anxiety? Even the hours, days, and months before you say no you are filled with...

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CALLING GETS TOUGH

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CALLING GETS TOUGH

“God I’m doing everything you’ve called me to do—why are things so hard right now?” Ever thought that? Told God that? I have. And I know I’m not alone. A while back I had breakfast with a friend who has an amazing call on his life. God is using him and his wife in...

INCREASING YOUR TEAM’S LEVEL OF ENGAGEMENT

INCREASING YOUR TEAM’S LEVEL OF ENGAGEMENT

Your team is the most important asset in the organization you lead. But this is true only when they are engaged. In 2017, according to a Gallup’s State of the Global Workplace report, only 15% of employees worldwide were engaged at work. By engaged, Gallup means...

LEADING FROM ALIGNMENT EPISODE 152: INTERVIEW WITH CHIP JUDD – PART 2

LEADING FROM ALIGNMENT EPISODE 152: INTERVIEW WITH CHIP JUDD – PART 2

In Part 2 of my interview with Chip Judd, Care Pastor at Seacoast Church in South Carolina, John and Chip focus on the inner life of leaders, and also on what can be done about the shrinking leadership pool. Here are the show notes: Let’s talk about the inner life of...

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE TOO BUSY

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE TOO BUSY

If you ask twenty people how many hours per week is reasonable for a leader to work, you’d probably get twenty different answers. Researchers from the business world have proven time and again that once you hit forty-five hours in a week, productivity (for most normal...

LEADING FROM ALIGNMENT EPISODE 151: INTERVIEW WITH CHIP JUDD – PART 1

LEADING FROM ALIGNMENT EPISODE 151: INTERVIEW WITH CHIP JUDD – PART 1

In today's episode, John interviews Chip Judd, Care Pastor at Seacoast Church in South Carolina. This powerful conversation unpacks important insights into the call of God on a leader's life, and the top challenges they face in a quickly changing culture. Here are the...