Apr 19, 2018 | Disappointment, friendship, Relationships, Uncategorized
Disappointment is the gap between our expectations and our reality. The bigger the gap, the more disappointment we feel. The more disappointment, the more pain we experience. Nowhere does disappointment seem to rear its head more than in relationships. When I take...
Apr 12, 2018 | Calling, Career, Change, Leadership, Ministry Leader, Missionary, Pastor, People-pleasing, Quitting, Work
“John, I can’t take the pressure anymore . . . I’m thinking about resigning.” You’d be surprised how often those words or some variation of them travel across the cellular airwaves to me each month. Lead pastors who feel desperate, tired, emotionally beat up, out of...
Apr 5, 2018 | Burnout, Calling, Depression, Emotional Health, Fatigue, Leadership, Ministry Leader, Missionary, Pastor, Rest, Uncategorized, Workaholism
The rhythmic pounding of ocean waves might be one of the most relaxing sounds God ever created. A couple of weeks ago, Laura and I spent a week vacationing in sunny, warm Florida. (Michigan weather, please get a clue). We took in Venice Beach on a windy day, and the...
Mar 29, 2018 | Burnout, Depression, Emotional Health, Ministry Leader, Missionary, Pastor, Uncategorized
“My life is over!” It was a bone-chilling night in November 1992. Weeks of little-to-no sleep combined with a lack of appetite due to excessive anxiety finally came to a head. My emotions were spinning out of control, I was suicidal, and contemplating the least...
Mar 22, 2018 | Calling, Career, Disappointment, discouragement, Leadership, Ministry Leader, Missionary, Pastor, Uncategorized
What do you do when ministry doesn’t work out the way you envisioned? When your expectations are swallowed up by disappointment? How do you react when you feel more like a firefighter (or a babysitter) than a leader? Have you ever thought to yourself: “I didn’t sign...
