SLAYING THE TWO-HEADED MONSTER: WORKAHOLISM & LAZINESS
Today our teammate Jaime Hlavin brings a fresh post that clarifies the struggle between two evil extremes: workaholism and laziness, and how different generations tend to think (improperly) about each other when it comes to these two troublesome twins. Enjoy! ~ John I...
WAVING GOODBYE TO PEOPLE-PLEASING
Nothing good ever comes from a ministry devoted to pleasing people ~ Chuck Swindoll The fear of man is a snare ~ Book of Proverbs When I think about my first fifteen years of pastoral ministry, so much of it was tinged with a subconscious thirst for people to like me....
CHRISTMAS AND THE EXTRAVAGANT HEART OF GOD
Today, another great post from our teammate Jaime Hlavin! Wishing you a Merry, Jesus-filled Christmas this year! ~ John My childhood Christmases can best be described as “extravagant.” My brother and I each received a massive pile of gifts every year and a large...
THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS I’VE LEARNED IN 2019
Can you believe 2020 is less than three weeks away? Near the end of every calendar year, I take time to reflect and write down the two or three most important things I learned during the year. I want to remember them. Practice them. Live life differently because of...
THE IRREFUTABLE POWER OF SLEEP
Today Jaime Hlavin brings another insightful post . . . about the impact of sleep (or a lack thereof) on leaders. I know you're going to enjoy today's post ~ John If ever there was a child meant to have a pet dog, that child is my 12-year old daughter. From the time...
5 REASONS I’M GIVING THANKS IN 2019
Tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day! I’ve heard business and psychology gurus pitch the idea that we can think our way to a better life. Their premise? Our brain is soft-wired, and can be re-wired by thinking positively, and in doing so, we can have a happier life. Since...
WHEN OUR ALIGNMENT LOOKS LIKE A CURVY SPINE
Today Jaime Hlavin brings another insightful and thought-provoking post to us on the subject of personal alignment. The more aligned you are, the healthier you get. And the healthier you get, the better chance you have of reaching your full potential ~ John At...
FALLING PASTORS: KEYS TO FINISHING WELL
It’s not easy to finish. It’s even less easy to finish well. Recent public denunciations of faith by well-known ministry leaders bring this reality to the forefront. In August of this year, Marty Sampson, a worship music writer, singer, and member of Hillsong,...
GETTING TO KNOW YOU
Jaime Hlavin is back today with an insightful post on why getting to know yourself matters so much. I know you'll enjoy it ~ John According to a quick and unofficial Google search, there are approximately 2,500 different “tools” available to determine personality...
QUESTIONS SELF-AWARE PEOPLE ASK
“We all have blind spots. To deny it is to prove it.” ~ Russ Ramsey Ever been in a conversation with a person who had no idea how their words were negatively impacting you? Ever had a boss who was clueless about how their angry rants were demoralizing you and your...
FAMILY LIFE & MINISTRY LIFE: ARE THE TWO COMPATIBLE?
Managing the tension between ministry and family is one of the more challenging items leaders deal with. How do we integrate our passion for our spouse and children (and grandchildren), and our passion for the assignment God has given us vocationally? Every leader...
WHEN GOD LEADS YOU DOWN A CONFUSING PATH
“Hi John, I’ve got something I want to propose to you.” The words of my lead pastor three and a half years ago via the cellular airwaves interrupted my smooth-running day. What he was about to propose would interrupt more than just my day. It would send me down a path...
THE GRATEFULNESS REMEDY
Gratefulness is a leader’s secret weapon. Its power is often underestimated and underutilized. And it costs nothing. While many contributors to building amazing teams exist, gratefulness expressed to existing team members might be the most effective one. In today’s...
WHEN THE SILENCE IS DEAFENING
We live near a busy road, one that my son Chad and I jokingly call "the drag strip" The noise pollution from the “drag strip” is substantial, consistent, and—if I can be totally honest—a bit annoying at times. Enter Plains, Montana. A curious name for a small town...
AUTHENTIC: YOU KEEP USING THAT WORD
Transparency. Authenticity. Two buzzwords often used, but often misunderstood. Today, an insightful post from Jaime Hlavin that brings better understanding of these words, and hopefully healthier behaviors along with it ~ John. The van bounced along the bumpy, rural...
THE MENTAL & EMOTIONAL HEALTH OF PASTORS
Last week’s news of Jarrid Wilson’s suicide rocked the Christian world. Many posts have been posted, many blogs have been blogged, many opinions have been opined. Some of those posts, blogs, and opinions have been tinged with compassion and grief . . . others with...
LEADING THROUGH OUR LIMITS
Today we welcome Jaime Hlavin to the Converge Coaching writing team! Jaime is married to Aaron, who serves as a lead pastor. She's the mother of two beautiful girls . . and a terrific writer. She will be writing posts on a variety of subjects, including content...
HELPING YOUR TEAM CRUSH GOALS WITHOUT CRUSHING THEMSELVES
Is it possible for you to lead your team to amazing levels of production? Yes. Can you get that done without grinding them into a fine powder? For sure. The big question is: how? How can I get my team to crush their goals without crushing themselves? Unmercifully...
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL STUCK
A couple of months ago, Laura and I helped our son Nathan and daughter-in-law Klar move into their first house. I was freshly reminded of the stress moving into a new home places on people: the boxes, the planning, the long hours painting and cleaning, and the overall...
HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF IN THE RACE
Have you ever wondered, “Do I really have what it takes?” Ever felt a gnawing sense of inadequacy, a creeping fear that you’re ill-equipped, and not up to the challenge your calling presents? Do you occasionally hear the lying whispers of the devil? “You’re a fraud!”...
CHARISMA? OR CHARACTER?
Have you ever noticed that our culture attaches itself to charismatic personalities like seagulls on a bag of French fries? Our national obsession with charisma has a long history. Recently I was thinking back to the 1980s (yes I’m aging). Ronald Reagan, Lech Walesa...
3 WAYS TO UNCORK BOTTLENECKS IN THE ORGANIZATION YOU LEAD
The most influential contributor to the growth of an organization is the growth of its leaders. When a leader stops growing, he/she limits the growth of the entity they lead. They become a bottleneck. A recent survey of business people from both large and small...
4 WAYS TO TAKE CONTROL OF OUR TONGUE
I like to play golf. Golf isn’t super-exciting. In fact, it’s kinda boring. But hitting a little ball hard with a club can be therapeutic. I'm a below average golfer. Golfers at a below average level use mulligans occasionally. If you’ve never played golf, you might...
5 PRACTICAL HACKS TO 5 SURPRISING STRESSORS PASTORS FACE
If you’ve answered the divine call to pastoral ministry, you’ve signed up for both a fulfilling and stressful journey. In last week’s post 5 Surprising Stressors Pastors Face we outlined some major contributors to the stress load pastors experience: Difficulty...
FIVE SURPRISING STRESSORS PASTORS FACE
The older I get, the faster time seems to go. It marches on unabated. 2019 is half over . . . can you believe that? I’m looking forward with great optimism to the second half of 2019. I think most pastors anticipate the second half of the year with optimism, and hold...
TELLING ANGER WHERE TO GO
We live in an increasingly angry world. If you don’t believe me, drive during rush hour in any major city in the U.S. Or watch cable news for thirty minutes. You’ll be convinced. Anger is a human emotion common to all of us. It says: “You’ve taken something from me,...
THE SIMPLE YET AMAZING POWER OF ALIGNMENT 3.0
Ever felt out of sorts as a leader? Ever felt overwhelmed by everything (or everyone) coming at you because you’re leading the charge? Ever wondered if you have what it takes to hang in there and keep fighting the good fight? Welcome to leadership. Nobody said leading...
SEVEN STEPS TO PERSONAL ALIGNMENT: PART 2
Healthy leadership . . . so many books written. So much great information to process. But in many ways, healthy leadership is all about alignment. In a post last week, I introduced the concept of personal alignment and how it impacts us professionally. Being...
SEVEN STEPS TO PERSONAL ALIGNMENT: PART 1
Healthy leadership is all about alignment. A groundbreaking 2017 report from Barna Institute, studying 14,000 Protestant lead pastors in the United States, revealed some alarming statistics: 37% of lead pastors are at medium to high risk of burnout 40% are not...
5 EMOTIONS OF A TWO-TIME PAPA
2 days ago, we welcomed our second granddaughter into the world! What a beautiful bundle of joy she is! Can I confess something to you? As her arrival drew near, this question crossed my mind: is it possible to love our second granddaughter as much as we love our...